Monday, May 26, 2008

Hillary's generational schizophrenia

Hillary is all out of wack in terms of figuring out which generation she is speaking to, for, or wants to be a part of.
When I heard her comments on RFK, I thought, well, that's awkward. When my mom heard her comments, she said it sounds like she's putting a hit out on Obama. My mom lived through that terrible time - (the JFK, RFK, MLK untimely deaths) and she was sad to dip down into that memory, and fear of losing a voice so powerful and genuine (Obama's). I was 5 or 6 maybe when President Reagan was shot. That's the closest I have come to experiencing that fear. So Hillary alienates her own generation. That's dumb.

Especially dumb because at the same time she's alienating the younger feminists by claiming rampant sexism in this race. I think my generation of feminists (I'm 33) think less about the glass ceiling, and more about being a woman who can do It All, being a mother, having a job you love, being in a marriage or partnership that is respectful. We tend not to go to the I can do everything a man can do place, but rather to the place of look how powerful a woman is in her own womanhood. This change has everything to do with the men of my generation growing up and believing the same thing - a woman is powerful in her own right, and they don't think they can do everything we can. And partnerships have been born. My brother-in-law, by best friends' boyfriends and husbands, my friends who are men, and my husband all share the load of grocery shopping, laundry, dinner, etc. My husband, who is nearly perfect, says that he would love a woman to be president, but that Hillary seems more like a woman trying to be a man. This is the difference in the feminist generations. We don't want to be men, and we don't want to be victims of men. We want to do it all, and we do. And when people try to stop us, we find them silly, not bullies.

Another really big difference is that we demand respect and give respect in our personal lives. Bill Clinton should be THE LAST PERSON IN THE WORLD who should be out talking about respect for women. The man who referred to Monica Lewinsky as "THAT WOMAN" and ruined her life, should shut up when it comes to women, respect for women, and especially respect for his wife. If we all followed his model of respect for Hillary, she'd have been out long ago.

I feel very sorry for Hillary right now. Very Very sorry. She's for sure been part of a world that has paved the way for my generation, as a good example and as a bad example, but she's out of date.

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